Me.
Really. When do you know to shut up? Do you accept the idiocy of a relative or tell them how stupid they are? What a shame this country has become when friends tell you to accept major problems because ... they aren't on drugs. Can't tell you how many have adult kids, grandkids, other loved ones that are, and are willing to accept things in exchange for them not to be. How far? When do you stop coddling just because they aren't addicts? How much irresponsibility and laziness should be overlooked? I'm turning 73 this week, and the change in how youth become responsible adults, is so vastly different from decades ago. Yes, society progresses, things change, but respect, decency, common sense, manners, responsibility, and accountability should not.
After Andersen comes to fix the new patio door (I I had the money I would rip it out and replace with another brand), we are going to Carole's with loads of new clothes for the kids' two birthdays and a piece of cake. I have a few hours to calm down, but I don't believe it will be enough. I don't want to hurt feelings when the issues are not intentional, just lack of common sense caused by the environment they grew up in (me first). Very good with their kids, kind to people, volunteers, just .... I don't have a word for clueless to results of their actions.
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I suspect I have a clue of to what you are referring...and have similar thoughts and feelings. Hence, one of the (many) reasons I have taken up the hermit lifestyle. The less I see and hear, the fewer of my buttons are pressed. And, of course, when those buttons are pressed, it usually leads to exile (i.e., imposed hermitage). I remember thinking about older people bemoaning the downward turn of society when I was younger and thought that was a sure sign of getting old. Perhaps it is...and no perhaps about it, I am. But dang...things out there are bad. You're so right, the me first/entitlement thing has unraveled things beyond recognition - and I'm afraid, in many regards, beyond repair. All I can say is, breathe...and eat more than one piece of cake. (And I feel your pain of the exploding cans. For some reason it happens to me a lot...). ~Robin~
What a mess the exploding cans must have been. Argh.
Too much entitlement with the snowflakes...and not just them. I am so thankful my boys, 43 and almost 45, have turned in to responsible adults. To be honest, years ago I seriously had my doubts. The government needs to stop handing out and coddling people. People need to take responsibility for their actions...or non actions.
OK. I will get off my soapbox now.
Just wanted to say I agree about the basic decency, manners, etc. I get frustrated with it too, but nobody asks my opinion. But I did raise a daughter to have good values and it shows because she is a responsible adult. We didn't coddle and we had expectations but none that she couldn't meet.
You can't fix stupid.
You just can't.
The only thing you can do is protect yourself from it the best you can.
Don't try to help. Don't try to mediate. For heaven's sake, don't try to assuage with money.
Commiserate, offer empathy, but then disengage. Vent, because it helps to get the frustration and disbelief out of the system, but then retreat with dignity to a place of sanctuary.
Wish they would install a course in civility and decorum in the schools and demonstrate
the rewards of genuine self-respect. In endeavoring to make them "happy" and care-free,
many parents have coddled their children into entitlement and deprived them of achieving
a hard-won and life-long principled character...Anonymous says it well...observe, but
don't absorb or be absorbed...
We are definitely on the same page and when it rains it pours Cherry Bud Light. You'll find some humor in that one day I hope.
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