One month since she left.
Having a more difficult time as time passes.
No stitching at all, but will have to order Notforgotten Farm's darling littles soon. I don't have to work on them now, but I can add them.
Continuing to help with sorting through her things, and finding so much that holds no sentiment or even reason to keep. The books and clothing will be maybe two more trips to donation centers.
I found these tiny very old books, with such sweet stories and charming illustrations. Bunny the Bold, A Good Little Goose, Cheeps the Chicken, A Kind Little Kitten. They will be kept.
Also, behind oil lamps and several angel figurines, this antique sick call box is complete with crucifix. My mom's was different, who gave this to her?
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I found very few like this, two on Ebay, none had the crucifix. Our church closed, Carole had a difficult time with stairs, and did not transfer to another church. Shortly after, the PAD limited her walking even more, and then loosing her legs and being in a facility until returning home almost two years ago. When we requested last rites from any priests at the hospital that day, we found that is no longer offered. With so few churches left, they do not visit hospitals, and then covid made that permanent. There was a minister visiting someone else in ICU, passed by her room, heard her crying out for help and that she did not want to die, asked us if he could come in to say a prayer over her. This and the holy water for the font were at her home, we had no reason to believe she would not return.
I really need to catch up but two months worth may be difficult.
Hope everyone is doing well. Stay safe.
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14 comments:
Such sweet little books. So many of Carole's collections to go through, so many memories. Am thankful that there was one minister who cared. It's hard for me to think that it's been a month since Carole passed. Why is the time flying by so fast. I'll be 84 in January. Thinking of you and sending hugs.
Please take care of yourself, Marly, during this sad time. Treat yourself to a cup of favorite tea, and a book that can help lift your spirits...perhaps a book of Mary Oliver's poetry on Nature?
Blessing to you and yours. I love the idea of you having a favorite cup of tea. Maybe good medicine, Dailey for awhile and sitting with a book to take a moment. However, I would share it should be one of the lovely children’s books. Those are lovely. I’m going to see if I can find some of these for me/my grand children. Bobbi
Those books are so very, very precious. Perfect reading material for your tender heart. The antique sick call box is beautiful. I am very glad the minister was there for Carole. I am praying for you and for Carole's soul.
Those little books are a treasure. I'm glad you're keeping them. I do not knoow what a sick call box is...I'm assuming it's a Catholic thing and can also assume its purpose. I found too that it didn't get easier...It just settles into a deeper hurt. ~Robin~
Nice find on the books! The illustrations are fantastic.
Part of me shudders to think what I'll leave behind that makes no sense for me to have. Another part says it makes me happy, so DS and whoever else is left will just have to deal with it. Yet another part *is* working to clear out things that now make me say "meh" at best, or wonder "what I was thinking?!" at worst..
I'm glad for Carole that she did get some spiritual attention at the end, even if not from a priest.
I'm glad those little books are now treasured keepsakes for you. I hope you feel that you can reach out to those who support you in your grief. Processing your feelings is the way forward - it is self care. Sending you my best healing wishes.
It's so hard to believe it has been one month already... those anniversaries are tough days, aren't they? I so love the little books you discovered and that antique call box is really special. Not being Catholic, I'm not sure what it is for, but I can appreciate the meaning it must have held for Carole. Take care now and be especially kind to yourself during this difficult time. ♥
When my sister was in her final days at the hospital after an 18 year fight for life, it was a kind female minister (Lutheran, I think) that took the time to speak and pray with her. I will be forever grateful to her. The religion didn't matter, the human touch did. Almost 20 years have passed and I choose to think of happier times when she was young before her illness. Time does ease the sharpness of loss. Hugs, Marly
Those books are too sweet and will be a great remembrance.
I was raised Catholic and never heard of a sick call box.
I am shocked no one comes to the hospital to administer last rites.
Hugs and prayers.
Hard to comprehend a priest could not answer such a request. The sick call set used to be a regular item in the Catholic home.... 'What a mercy that the
minister was on hand to bring some spiritual comfort to Carol. So glad you
have those precious books as a tender reminder of her.. Please take care of
yourself and seek silence and serenity to surround you with healing.
Hi Marly, 2 months behind? are you referring to blog entries or your stitching, either way please don't put too much pressure on yourself right now. I know this may be difficult to read, but getting over grief takes time, much like waiting for winter to be over! It's hard to comprehend that priests do not visit hospitals anymore in the United States, here (NZ) the service is still offered but it's inter-denominational unless someone has a special conversation with their parish priest. Take Care, Marian
Marly don't blame yourself that you are still missing Carole-- that is normal and will be for a while. Take your time and nobody can tell you when it's over and you will miss her even after years gone by.
My sister passed away in 1998 and I still do miss her...not all the time but with special occasions or so.
These little books are beautiful and I love the drawings in these booklets.
Take your time and take care of yourself -- take a walk every day when the weather is fine.
A big hug for you two, Truus from Holland
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