Here's why

 there are no plans to contact, file complaints, have someone step in.  I went through this when my father was mistreated while dying in the hospital because a pulmonary specialist did not recognize a pulmonary embolism.  The hospital and his doctors did not believe what I witnessed, heard, saw, noted, reported.  The apology and removal of the doctor from the group came two years later when statute of limitations expired.  But not from the hospital regarding their staff.  That was 20 years ago.  How they react today may be different, but why create more stress?  Would it make sense to cause issues and possible resentment between patient and professionals that will have your life in their hands?  Their failures cost anxiety, precious time, and a lot of money, but did not injure or worsen her condition intentionally.  Unless an end result will be of benefit, we have to let it go.  Hard to do especially when it happens repeatedly.  

We will go back in two weeks, Monday I will call to explain to his associate how upsetting and costly this was, should not have happened.  I will request the doctor, the anesthesiologist we spoke with, a morning surgery, a spinal with light sedation, a pre surgery echocardiogram, a copy of all these instructions, a copy of the orders for her facility, and explain that although we were very upset, we know that they will do their best to make this surgery a success.  In return, please make amends to the patient and honor her requests, put her mind at ease so there are no surprises, understanding how traumatic this is.  

My sweet hubs took me for a ride yesterday and today and I got my iced coffee drinks from my favorite McD's location, a Dunkin iced coffee, and a Burger King mocha iced coffee.  We also visited my favorite Amish nursery and although greatly picked over, three bronze mums for $7 each, and a small yellow for Carole which I've decided to keep.  It will become quite large when flowering and she really has no room.  

She loves succulents so Mark picked out this sweet bucket there.  Unfortunately, we never looked at the bottom which is already rusted.  She should be pleased and it will fit nicely on the wide window ledge.

They moved the swearing screamer next door to her and away from the 115 year old resident.  They apologized and asked Carole if she would mind, she said no, I may be a screamer one day.  She is the only resident there that you ever hear, we've never heard anyone asking for help or crying.  She goes 24/7 and a few months ago she was sweet, funny, and vivacious.

My friend recently had pneumonia and they saw a small spot on her lung.  The CT scan showed nothing unusual, doctor ordered a PET anyway, which also showed no cancer cells.  He was skeptical, so ordered an aspirated CT biopsy or something like that.  Malignant.  So I guess all of us that had negative scans are now wondering!!  How could a PET not show the cells?  Anyway, she has used a CPAP for years and that one has been found to have a remote chance to cause cancer after many years of use.  So she will have a small portion of the lung removed, no additional treatment required.

See?  When I settle down I can be nice-nice and rant free.  Give me a day or two.

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Briefly. Or is it?

 I had quite a few emails asking about yesterday.  I will try to make it brief.  But first, Rachel progress.  I worked on her while at the hotel on the first unnecessary night.  Expecting to be in a waiting room for hours and not wanting to carry too much, I did the first half of the cross.  That limits needing all the floss colors and also the chart.  But she never left my tote since I spent the entire day in her pre-op room.  So I worked on her last night and completed most of the crosses.

There is one color for the tree fills, more chart-less stitching.

Brief bitch.

*Three different locations of McD's have given me the wrong size drink I paid for (the product for that size is printed on the cup),

 *the post office stuffed/folded/crushed my package into the mailbox,

*my mail was not held until Monday as requested,

 *the township notified us that culvert work would begin 9/23 but never showed, 

*the landscaper notified us after months of the third start date of 9/20 never showed, 

*regarding yesterday*

*the $667 ambulance transport to an hour long anesthesia consult made by her surgeon 2 weeks prior to surgery, 

*she answered every question and concern but unfortunately not all correct, 

*a spinal as recommended by two of her doctors was agreed to be the method at the consult,

*the doctor either did not read or did not get the report he requested, 

*the anesthesiology department also did not review their group's consult report, 

 *specifically told that Plavix was OK when having a spinal, ordered only to stop Eliquis, 

*a spinal bleed/paralysis could result with Plavix yet consult never mentioned, 

*three different anesthetists contradicted each other on procedures and risks, 

*smart ass arrogant doctors telling very high risk elderly patients they are being unreasonable, 

*obviously annoyed doctors pushing the general anesthesia that caused severe delirium,

*dismissing her cardiologist recommending a spinal only, 

*dismissing the patient's fears and anxiety as unreasonable after six months of dealing with this bullshit,

 * after hours of disgust finally receiving several apologies from a competent anesthesiologist and her surgeon who came to her room late in the day,

* it's their own f-ing mistakes and lack of followup that caused this, 

*once again transport for the three hour trip could not come until late evening,

*all day, no meds, no pain pills, no food, no water,

*and cost me over $1000 for transports and hotel, not to mention her anxiety.

I don't know what the next step will be.  Amputation is necessary but I trust no one.  It seems even the professionals are taking advantage of the current acceptance of irresponsibility without consquence.

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The result

 Just got back to the hotel.  We packed and will be going home shortly.  The ambulance will be picking up carole for return to the facility.  To say we are extremely upset, is an understatement.  And out $453.00 for a two night stay.  I don't want to explain, I'm exhausted.  It has nothing to do with her condition, just failure for them to get their shit together.  Apology not accepted, I've done that too many times.

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Not a good start

 We're in Pittsburgh at the hotel.  Didn't need to be because the surgery time was changed to afternoon, and staying Friday and Saturday would have been better.  This and two nearby hotels are booked for Saturday night, but she may do well so we'll take it as it comes.  Quite disappointed in the change, and that she won't be in a room until late day.

Oh my, what dinosaurs we are.  Check in through the app.  Nu-uh.  No phone to do that.  Door lock is a card that works by tap.  Where?  Which end?  Try the other side!  Middle?  Mark went back to the car to get my McD's large sweet tea that is NOT.  Unless this city uses a different set of measures, this is my town's small.

So we unpack and turn up the heat because it's freezing.  Mark comes out of the shower and asks me to smell around the commode.  ???  We've been married 51 years but I draw the line at some requests.  In fact, that list increases annually.  Well, there was a familiar odor starting to seep out, smoke.  Except for Cleveland Clinic visits, I haven't been in a hotel for decades, before mom & dad needed help.  And there's a fire in the next room.  The man next door forgot about the microwave and after 10 minutes of alarm, guests congregated in the hall wondering what to do.  We saw no hotel staff.  Finally the room's door flies open and a smuggled dog with his owner bolts.  The stench was tremendous from the room.  Fireman, hoses, pounding, yeah, it's been fun.  The alarm stopped after an hour.  I would have offered this guy and his buddy the sofa since the hotel is filled and he can't go back to the room, but I think he was putting the dog in his car and I did not see him again.  

Little annoyance, no big deal.

Except for two snack bag chips and two candy bars costing $20.

Have a good Friday.

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Thankful for errors

 Well... some of them.  I ordered this chart and was told it was out of stock before the rest shipped.  I then found it at Sassy Jacks (first order for me) and shortly after was told it WAS in the shipment.  So I emailed SJ and asked if they could cancel that chart order, I didn't need two.  Never heard back and I received the duplicate yesterday.  Hoping to relax, I took a few minutes to enjoy our last warm day on my swing to study the new sampler.  As soon as I sat, the phone rang once again and I needed to go inside to get info for the caller.  Unfortunately, the chart didn't come with me.  First time in quite a few days, no warning, downpour.  So the error of receiving two was a good thing.  I still have one dry readable chart.

Will I ever stitch it?  Who cares?  I have it.  After watching a few videos of the last retreat, I desperately searched for Bonanomi's Book of Days.  No luck except for a delusion seller on Amazon at $300.  But I did get a deal at Nancy's Notions and ordered her Pure & Simple book for $9.99!

Nervous anxiety is fueling a spending spree at a really bad time.  It's only Tuesday and I'm running out of Tums and Pepto.  Carole lost a dear friend who along with our cousin who passed a week ago, were very close since early school years.  Some of our family always talked about how deaths come in threes.  I know this is adding to her extreme anxiety and fear, I hope it doesn't trigger panic or delusion.

Hope your week goes well.

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A tree break

 I'm not a stitcher that enjoys motifs, frequent color changes, or scattered stitches to count.  I am lazy and prefer letters and uncomplicated patterns.  The trees are only three colors and can't possibly reveal errors in their leaves.  But still a royal pain in the wide ass.  I don't know if I have the ambition to complete the crosses and fill the other stitches now, a foliage break sounds nice while I stitch a few letters.  Somewhat of a scare when I looked at the first two, so very similar and I thought another huge error, but wasn't the case.  I've decided to keep either the 36 or the 40 of that gorgeous linen and will exchange the other for another color.

I've been ordering used books online for a few years and recently switched to Better World Books.  I always find a discount code, order "very good" condition, and have been very pleased.  Very nice, clean, and more hard covers than I found elsewhere.  They also donate books to areas in need.  I have her set up with an eleven book series but that will be down to four by Friday.  We have a hotel room and are all very anxious and unsettled, but nowhere near what she is experiencing.  A spinal and light sedation will hopefully get her through without heart or blood pressure crises.  It's what the cardio docs recommended.  Bad enough dealing with losing a leg without worrying if you'll make it through the surgery.

My brother will come in for cat care and I plan to lock them in the garage, much to their dismay.  Too bad.  Petey will stay outside of course, and although that's where the other two would like to be, it won't work.  As soon as they catch a glimpse of Ron they will bolt and their food will need to be left outside, raccoons will join them for dinner.  There won't be a referee for tussles, workers will be here (fingers crossed), so they will just have to howl safely inside for a few days. 

 Mark is not working on their camp as planned, he is still pretty weak.

I hope your weekend was good.

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