A candy coated description of the added stress and commotion.
And I'm betting it is not what you imagined!
Carole came home in December to what was her house, now her son's (Chris), after being gone for two years. Early July, Chris's son (Matt) left his SO of ten years when she refused to agree to counseling and moved in to the house. The court was for full custody of their two kids who do not want to live with mom. The 8 and 9 year olds also now live in the house every other week, soon to be full time since mom failed to follow court ordered counseling. Matt's dear friend from work passed away suddenly from an aneurysm, her husband decided to take her new pup to the shelter which was devastating to their kids. Matt knew how she and her kids loved that pup and adopted it so the kids would know she had a good home. That "pup" is a Great Dane, now eleven months old, and very hard to manage when she is in play mode. Then Matt is introduced to Tracy, who is now staying at the house and has been helping Carole since she arrived home. She left her job to be hired through an agency as her caregiver. Chris is type 1 diabetic, ADHD, very high strung, stressed. Matt is as messy as can be, unless you count Tracy in. The two youngsters are like their dad. Maybe it's selfish, but none of us thought Carole coming home with her needs and adding to this scenario was a good idea at this time.
So in addition to Carole, there is Chris, Matt, Tracy, Sophia. Matt 2, and Harley the Dane occupying a three bedroom cape with a one car garage. The house is packed full from attic to basement with Carole's "treasures", Chris's crap, Matt's junk, kid's clothes, more toys than Walmart, a massive dog crate, huge motorized chair, manual wheelchair, disability aids, and a sampling of all strewn throughout. It's difficult to take a meal, leftovers, or even a treat to one person when five others are there. No, they don't expect anything and are also contributing to her needs, but it's uncomfortable for me. They all pitch in, continually ask what they can do for her, personalities are thankfully not an issue.
I can't take clutter, disorder, deafening noise, racket from three conversations, kid's screaming (one is autistic), a barking dog that can knock me down, not having a place to park, not having empty counter space to set something, on top of trying to deal with needs no one can fill for a sister slapped in the face with reality. Not only of her condition, but her home's also. Yes, they've been told, are driving Chris nuts, are as nice and sweet as can be, but more work is needed. When you have lived without order, you don't recognize it since it becomes the norm. Matt does not make enough for an apartment (most here are drug infested and unsafe), and Chris wants his grandkids in his home, they don't need more changes right now. Both men working shifts and with Tracy, someone is always available to be with the kids, very important. Now that I am done with health crap and ready to start the dental, I will be the toothless bitch with crooked fingers and enforcer of new rules. Any bets?
The end?
Not by a long shot.
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