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Missy did not run from the new plush cat as she did with others, but it's not a comfort to her. More of a what the hell is that. I brushed her on the sofa with the cat at the other end, she stayed afterward and stared at it. And yes, I always need peroxide and a bandaid when finished. I guess it will just take time as you've mentioned, and I will remove the shelter and box that he lounged on top of from the deck this afternoon. Or should I not? She is constantly checking it and sniffing to see if he is behind, inside, or atop. Adopting another is out of the question. This girl is not friendly, has even attacked large feral males. If we would consider it, the new member would be a senior. We've been restricted by family and pet responsibilites for over twenty years, do not want another twenty. Good grief I'll be 71 next month!
I plan to apply for part time work soon, which also sends the message to others that I will not be available. Husband thinks it is a mistake for her to return home because of how much she will be relying on others, but I don't blame her for trying. My feeling is for her to stay where she is, and we'll work out a transport for weekends at home. Best of both worlds. No daily meal prep, no bathing struggles, no meds to manage. For two days, easy meals, family and friend gatherings, peace in your own home, back to 24/7 care for the week.
Hope everyone had a nice weekend.
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6 comments:
I totally agree that having Carole return home would probably just add too much of a burden to family members. Even with full-time aides at my mother's home I am constantly on the run. It would have been better that she was in a competent facility. I wish you the best. I am so sorry that the plush cat is not a help for Missy. What about putting the cat in the shelter for a while. Perhaps it will get Nitzy's scent and give Missy some solace.
Yes...it takes time. Liza Bean finally stopped looking behind the laundry room door for Purrcy, etc. but, man...it seemed like forever and each time my heart was ripped out. And yes...your proposal for Carole's care is brilliant. I often feel guilty about not having my mom live with me but I know it would not be feasible on any level. It would still not be where she wants to be (the farm...yup, she bypassed the home she lived in after the farm and went straight back "there")...and I would not be able to physically care for her even if I retrofitted our house to accommodate a wheelchair, a walk-in shower, etc. And one thing I know is that I am not a long term caregiver. That is just not in me and my best intentions would, indubitably, turn to frustration and resentment. ~Robin~
It will take time. I'd leave Nitzy's shelter & box in place for Missy, at least for awhile. Maybe she'll come to accept the new stuffed kitty. I like Cathie J.'s idea of putting the new stuffed cat into Nitzy's shelter so it can pick up his scent. I agree that Carole returning home full-time is not the best of ideas, no matter how much she may long to be back home. It will put far too much strain on both you & your hubby. Weekend home visits would truly be the best of both worlds! Wishing her all the best.
Teresa
I do NOT think adopting another kitty would be a good idea. Maybe if you take the shelter away it would take some stress from Missy, thinking that Bud, Petey or Nitzy would be coming back. Your home would be just Missy's home now. It will take a lot of time for her just as it will be for you to get over the loss. Can't happen in a day, week............may take months and a lot of patience.
I think the visits to and from Carole would be the best idea. I can imagine that she'd love to be back home, BUT.......It's a sad situation all the way around. Do what you think is best for you and Mark. Carole's every need is being taken care of where she is. You've gone over and above through the whole situation.
Praying for some peace for you and Mark and Missy.
Love and hugs,
Charlotte in Va.
I'm sure Missy is lonely wondering where everyone went, but to up and shove another cat at her is not right either. Possibly downright dangerous. Of course she dismisses the plush fake cats, they were bought specifically for her so they must be ignored in best cat fashion. If you bought one for someone else, that you wanted to keep kitty hair free, she'd have claimed it as hers in short order. Because... cats. I agree about putting the fake in the shelter and box so it takes on some of Nitzy's aura and scent.
I hope you find a job that's not too stressful. Bummer that you need to, but you & Mark have had a horrendous year or two regarding finances with that sewer work. And as always, covering Carole's shortfalls.
I understand Carole's desire to be home, I would be wanting to go home too. But I absolutely agree, it's probably best for Carole to stay somewhere that she doesn't need to worry about cleaning, meals, narrow doors, falling and no one there to help, etc. Because we all know it's you that she (and her family) would be expecting to be at her beck and call all day every day. Besides, if she does go back home full time and it doesn't work out, how likely is it she could return to the current facility? She might have to settle for a place farther away, and/or not so nice.
If she comes home a couple of weekends, maybe she'll realize times change and home isn't the right thing any more. If she can go for several weekends in a row, with no calls to you, maybe then reconsider a full time return home.
I like your changes to the last sampler for the bag, especially good was the change to that corner. And the one you're just starting, that bottom band of squares is very interesting. Dipping a finished project in tea or coffee to age it is quite bold to me. Taking sandpaper to a finished project - EEEEK! :-)
I love your house...what I can see of it at least! So glad you as re feeling better! Be well,!
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