Will I feel like unloading the tote of PS Santas and others?
Probably not.
Do I know why?
Not really.
Do I like using my boxwood's cuttings and how they dry?
Yep.
Do I love the battery candles that offer ambiance without hazard?
Absolutely.
Did I have ham and scalloped potatoes for dinner?
Ohhhh baby.
And this is where I am on Ann. The verse appears blue in the chart photo but that is not the listed color in the legend. But it will be. That blue body and the bottom motifs are what attracted me to her so I will use blue. It's not like I consistently follow chart colors.
Busy week. Nutty week. Stressful week.
There are no caregivers. Our friends lost their private aide and tried three agencies. One girl showed up, left early, was mostly on her phone. The other two never even showed, did not call the agency to say they weren't coming in, so they did not know the client was left alone. Carole will be home Thursday. Nothing in place because of that.
When a resident is so upset about leaving the good people at her facility, the aides, the housekeepers, the nurses, the staff, the beautiful building and excellent food, the wonderful room and decor, the fabulous outdoor gardens and porches, the concerts, the game room, the pets .... you gotta wonder. Would you leave? Being cared for and so loved by staff, enjoying the day with laughter and friendship, every need met and pampered? At 84 with heart failure and loss of both legs? We all think she's foolish, especially when I spill the background and you know more. But it's not our decision.
I'm thinking about a small giftaway for Christmas. Maybe a chart?
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14 comments:
I love your decorating, especially that lovely green boxwood. Your Ann sampler is beautiful! It is a simple yet attractive design, not fancy but so appealing and very much to my liking. It`s amazing how many stitched pieces you are able to complete and all are praiseworthy. As far as Carole goes they say "there`s no place like home" and that may be her thought now but alas, the grass is greener on the other side and it won`t be surprising if she grows to miss the dream facility she`s currently in. I sure hope everything works out OK for you all. Have a good week and enjoy those ham and scalloped potato leftovers!
I wonder if you could get Carole back into the same facility, if things didn't work out at home? I suppose the lure of independence is strong, but like you say, when all your needs are met and by kind people as well, what's not to love. We still haven't put our trees up and I'm still trying to fully finish the ornaments I stitched during the year, but it doesn't feel like Christmas to me, I might get in the mood all being well.
Ham and scalloped potatoes = yum! Ann is looking good, Marly! Your boxwood is so pretty.
I didn't put up as much decorations this year either. Partly sort of "meh" about the decorations I have, partly I wanted a bit of change in what was set out and where. I do like your simple greens and candles - simple, uncluttered, and won't look out of place after the holidays are done.
I don't know what I'd do in Carole's place. I remember when we were looking a assisted living for Dad, I asked if I could move in - no cleaning, or cooking, people to talk to if I wanted, a door to close if not. I was only half joking. I was simply tired, frazzled with Dad's situation, the hour each way drive to see him, plus work and its 10-11 hour work days, etc., and did not have health issues. On one hand, with the caregiver situation, staying at the facility seems wisest, yet home is...home.
I presume that with a nice facility, as soon as she's out their door, they'll be prepping the room for a new occupant. And that if things go off rails at home, she'll be on a wait list to get back in, or to get into any facility. I ReallyReallyReally hope she (& her family) is not assuming you and Mark will be at her beck and call!
The background situation...I can't help but suspect her family squabbling over whether she should go back home or not. Not only financial things, but who will take care of her.
Enough of my pre-coffee babbling thoughts on Carole! Anne is looking good, and since the blue verse is part of what you liked, blue it should be. Stitcher's choice and all that. Odd that it was shown in blue, but not charted that way.
What a tough situation for Carole and for you as well. Finding good help in a facility is difficult, almost impossible for in home care. A friend whose mother is 102 y/o has had a revolving door of same issues,. On the phone all day long, no show no call, lying about care, stealing, etc. Finally found two sisters who cover round the clock and are gems. There are good people out there. I hope if things do not go smoothly at home she can return to her room, perhaps a trial while holding her place? I understand how you feel about the PS charts. I have many from years past and can never pass them up at a garage or estate sale. They are classic, nostalgic,timelss and are easy to work. Save them! One day my kids will have a bonfire with my stash!
Hi Marly: This is an amazing Sampler it is lovely.
I am sad that the health care workers are getting so lazy, I too would want to stay at the facility where they care, some you can trust some not so.
I hope all works out.
Catherine
Just love the textured effect of Anne. This one, despite it's ?'s, is a winner. It might be a naive question, but could Carole take an open ended home visit on a weekend to see how it goes and to get it out of
her system, allowing her re-entry to that wonderful facility should she
be the wiser for the experience? The pros and cons columns seem to favor
the care and attention from the full staff there and she might come to
agree... No place like home, for certain, but her care and welfare should take precedence even in her own mind...Let her know the beck and
call situation at home is no longer feasible given your condition. A
difficult dilemma which hopefully can be resolved.
Joan in VA
I'm not quite in Carole's, but I understand why she wants to be at home. I am sitting in a rehab facility with heart failure, skanky kidneys and diabetes. I am getting PT and OT, and there is nothing, absolutely nothing I want more than to be in my own home.
Love your display with the candles and the boxwood -- could be a picture from a glossy magazine!
Does Carole know that you or Mark cann't go to her every time she feels lonely or need something???
I know you both want her to be happy, but please think of your own health.... Is Carole coming home for good or just for a short stay.
Hope that all will go well 🙏
Lots of love to you both, Truus from Holland
Ann is looking good Marly! And ham and scalloped potatoes - yum. Going grocery shopping today.....Your display with candles and boxwood is gorgeous. Sorry to hear about Carole's situation/decision...a part of me understands the pull to be "home." As others have said, do take care of yourself Marly!!
Oh, that makes me sad to read about Carole, Marly. If she's so happy there, I can't imagine her wanting to leave after all this time. I kind of understand, but I feel she may regret it.
I love the idea of your boxwood--I'm going to cut some and try it! And now you have me wanting ham and scalloped potatoes. Always one of my mom's favorites. Boy, do I miss her--especially at this time of year.
Beautiful progress on Ann--those colors are wonderful! Take care now, Marly--I hope the stress lessens at least a bit ♥
Ham and scalloped potatoes is one of my all time favorites...but I bet you didn't save me any leftovers. Ann is looking lovely...but I would expect nothing less of your hands. Wish we could grow boxwood here - I love it so, but it is just too cold. They grow well only a few hours south of here, but not here in Nod. Carole...ah...Carole! That place sounds so amazing. If she could see where my mom is, she would be convinced she was in paradise and stay. But, yeah...I definitely get the home thing. Just remember how to say no my friend. I worry about you. ~Robin~
Praying for Carole to be happy when she gets home. Your meal sounds wonderful. Your header is beautiful, with Postman and box wood.
Merry Christmas ~ Hugs.
Charlotte in Va.
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