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It's been hectic, still haven't done all that is needed. I guess we were all hoping that she realized how safe and well loved she is there and would postpone coming home. One of the aides actually called off the day shift because she could not bear saying goodbye. Tearful day for all.
So .... did she make a list of food items and essentials for the house? No. I thought Chris was instructed, he thought I was. Nothing. Did she realize the fireman meetings are on Thursday from 5 to 8? Yes and expected them to not go. They are obligated. Are there any caregivers in place? Nope. And then there's the background issue that shoves the thorn deeper. I'm eating Tums today like M&Ms.
I am getting ready to make a kugel and soup for her for tonight and tomorrow, will be going over later. Mark and Chris are at the facility now, bringing home the rest of her stuff along with the new huge TV. He will come to pick me up later. I can understand wanting to be home and not thinking you could be there for ten years! But the timing (and its reason) is really frosting my cake. Waiting for everything to be in place, both house and care, would have been easier on everyone.
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Even when spent, expired, drained, ferns continue to show off.
I just get nastier. And louder.
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7 comments:
From everything you have written about Carole, I am not surprised she didn't consider all should be in place before she returned, but on the other hand, I can understand her wanting to go home. I hope it all works out without too much stress on you.
Raining in northern Ohio, too, and am happy it is not the white stuff!!!
I'm gobsmacked how cool that fern looks!
And so it begins. I just hope the fern doesn't shrivel up completely. 😶 There aren't many bright spots in your world right now so here is one for you: You aren't in Nod and did not just get nailed with with 10" of heavy wet snow, preceded by an inch of ice and followed by 45 mph winds. ~Robin~
As usual, I look forward to your "words of life" and continue to feel so sorry for all the stress and health issues you've been under for so long. I know how much you've done for your sister Carole but just wish she would be able to understand she should be a bit more patient waiting for all those wonderful things she's asking for to be put in place. My question is -- has she always been a little demanding (I have no other way to express this) for things to be done for her or perhaps just expects all she wishes for will happen?
If you were my sister (and I never had one), I would certainly appreciate all you've done these several years and probably longer. I've probably said too much but I want you to know I think of you.
Also -- Want you to know I'm stitching the chart I "won" from you -- the 2 strawberries "Fraises de Noel" by Tralala -- Love them!
I wish I lived closer so I could help you Marly. You have so much (too much) on your plate. I do hope you take care of yourself. We had snow this a.m. followed by sleet, then heavy sleet, then rain, then more sleet. It was a mess and I had to go out briefly. There were idiots on the roads (or course). But, I did what I had to do, got home safely and then had a nice nap!
What a fiasco on Carole's return home. I'd have thought she'd have a checklist of things to be done, and by who (whom?), before she got there. And as usual, you are bearing the brunt of her demands. Or is it her dreams and wishful thinking? I know in past years, it's been you doing her gift shopping - nothing right, not good enough, not enough, etc. Then the clothing & decorations you've gotten her while in the facility, again - not right, not enough.
I hope you can draw a line on how much you'll be able to do for her at home. A day or two while she settles in wouldn't be quite so bad. I fear she assumes you'll be available to fix things 24/7 forever. I've said it before, I hope she and her family know what they are facing if you can't do it any more.
Alas, Carole could use a "come to Jesus" meeting. I cannot imagine Carole,having received the time, attention and care you have given her
through the years up to this day, not showing consideration for your present condition and needs, especially during this time of year. Take care of yourself by setting limits, Marly. You can only do so much. A
quiet, firm, "So sorry, No" has been long overdue. We love you and
wish you health and well being. Hoping the same for Carole...
Hope all went well to take Carole at home and she is appreciating to be home and all the work you and Mark had done for her to make it possible.
Please take care of yourself too.
It's a beautiful blue color you are stichting with in the sampler.
Lots of love to you, Truus from Holland
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