I needed to change the S in Ann's name. Throughout the verse was annoying enough but her name should be clearly recognized. In my snarky opinion. Why would she have used a standard S in one word? And the didst beneath had me baffled until the very end. Just now in fact! I was thinking Ann misspelled didn't which wasn't making sense. DIDST! My word of the day but will limit using it around the kids today. They will think I'm saying dissed. Eight and nine, they asked me if I was non binary. They informed me that they are.
We will spend the afternoon ridding her bedroom in order to install the door. She cannot. Trying to rotate that massive chair in a small space, pick up, transport, and stack elsewhere is close to impossible and would take fifty times longer. She seems to be going downhill. Her stump looks bad, she has two open wounds on her back side, she is skipping diuretics (Tracy can't be there to change her 24/7), the nurse canceled twice, the hospital bed hasn't even been ordered yet. Do I feel guilty? Yes. I tried my best to reason with her before leaving the facility. This isn't a few weeks of help after a surgery, this is lifelong. Did this for six years, not again. But when you see a loved one struggling, despondent, you can't help but feel guilty.
This evening I will try to relax and continue with the over one. I hope you all have a safe and enjoyable evening.
Happy new year!
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8 comments:
P!ease don't feel guilty. I know that is so much easier said then done but you have gone above and beyond in helping her. I hope 2023 is less stressful for you.
I know some people who SHOULD be feeling guilty about her care and it’s certainly not you
I know what it is like to feel that guilt. I have it almost every day with my own mom, but there is little I can do at this point. It is awful that a hospital bed hasn't even been ordered and the help that is needed is not forthcoming from the agencies. Concentrate on fixing that S and clear your mind. Wishing you a more peaceful New Year.
Dear Marly...
You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. I know, easier said than done. Praying that she finally gets the services she needs and that she can bounce back. I can understand her wanting to come home, but that probably isn't the best place for her. You can't be with her 24/7.
May 2023 be a much better year.
xoxo
Marly, I understand you feeling that way but please stop now. You and Mark have gone above and beyond for Carol….for your whole family really since I started reading your blog. It’s a sad situation for your sister to be in so be sad but please not guilty. (Keep an eye on those backside sores. They can quickly become a serious health problem)
Marly, I've read all the responses above and agree with every one of them. This is certainly not your fault (see GOVERNMENT in my thoughts!) -- why did anyone ever consent to her leaving the facility where she was so well being cared for?
I understand her wishes to return to her home, my mother did that at the nursing home that took so special care for her for all her ending years, but reality sets in for those family members who care for the well being of their loved ones and we know nursing skills far out way that which we can give them in their wished for "back home".
You've done all you could and then some!!-- but I wonder if Carole wouldn't be better off and better cared for back at that facility where you could visit and do your best to continue your care in supplying her with some of what she believes she needs?
What's going on for her future care is a miserable situation for you and I think is adding ton your own health problems.
I guess I've said too much, but like so many here, I'm very concerned about you.
Love you from a distance :) Wishing you and Mark a Happy and Healthy New Year.
Thou didst more than anyone should ask of a loved one, so please don't
carry any further guilt....Her condition may also convince Carole of the
unwise decision to move out of professional nursing care...any chance of
return? 2023 should be yours and Marks...you have certainly earned the
time and recovery. In the meantime, a very blessed New Year to you both
and may you find the peace and fulfillment you both so deserve. Be well
and cherish one another.
Feeling guilty is a natural reaction, but nothing that has happened is your fault and if you are not very careful your own health will suffer. I do hope that Carole will see sense and go back to the facility where she was looked after 24/7. Hope 2023 is a good one for you and your family.
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