for my sister once hubs gets home. He has been doing everything I can't, and is out shopping for groceries. When he returns, he will hit the roof.
I told Carole that I would try to remove stains from her massively thick comforter with my enzyme soap. She knows I can't walk, yet chose today to have her son drop it off. Where the hell does she think I will work on it?
I folded it from my wheeled chair and I think hubs will be throwing it in the basement as soon as he sees it. You know, it's in her way. So puffy.
Get rid of all the crap and clutter and make room!!
Dammit.
Common sense is sorely lacking in this family.
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10 comments:
At a certain point you have to do for YOU. Tell her son to pick the freaking comforter up and you’ll let them know when you’re up to working on it and he can bring it back. We both know that you knowing that comforter is in the basement will put pressure on you to work on it…my 2 cents…and I want change…lol
You did a better job of folding that from a wheelchair than I would standing. And I don't see any stains? Ok...yeah, I'm off topic. It's been that kind of day. ~Robin~
How about showing Carole's progeny how to use enzyme soap? Too weak
to fold that comforter? Stuff and nonsense... I know it bothers you,
but nothing seems to bother them...Just wish you could leave them to their own devices and consequences... Off the soapbox. Appreciate
you too much to remain quiet.
Your first mistake was telling Carole you'd clean it for her. But you can't right now, you have more pressing issues. You being in a wheelchair is one of them. Tell Mark to drop it off at the dry cleaners and they can pick it up for Carole when it's ready.
I agree with "Unknowns" comment.
I think Carole and family are really taking advantage of you and Mark.
She is going to drive her caretakers into the ground. Stand up for yourself and Mark.
I'm terribly sorry that you're in a wheelchair. Prayers for you.
You've been such a compassionate person ever since I started reading your blog.
Enough is enough.
Have a peaceful, restful Sunday.
God bless you.
Charlotte in Va.
Had a similar incident years ago, not family but a super-needy, agoraphobic (so she claimed) client who had the unmitigated gall to have her husband leave two (supposedly very valuable Persian rugs) on my front porch. For repair. I never told her I did that kind of work, I never told her that I would clean the filthy rugs, nor did I agree to do anything more for her, period. I called, left a message, because she didn't talk on the phone (more BS) informing her that the rugs were being used as blankets for the feral cats and critters in the woods and she could come for them anytime. Within hours, they were gone. Now, that aside, I do think Carole is so used to you and your husband, being her "person" that your issues truly never occur to her. The only person who can set the boundaries is you. I also understand that she is your dear sister and attempting to over-ride her personality is likely a useless cause. Comforter looks like a nice liner for your feral cat boxes this winter. Clearly, you need to start being forgetful as in....I have no idea where that darn thing went!!!! Have a nice a day as you can, wheels and all. Not yet into wheels, I am gimping with my cane. Good grief, aren't we a team?
I seldom post here but had to this time. I'm with "unknown." Tell them to take it to the cleaners.
This sounds like the comforter that broke the sister's back to paraphrase.
She has taken advantage of you for so long it is just normal for her to expect you to jump on it.
Hugs ;-)
Oh my...don't she know you cann't walk also and didn't see her son the state where you are in when he was dumping that big comforter????
Sending you wisdom and the right words to tell them that they can clean it with the soap you wil give them.
You have done a lot for Carole and more than that too,but know is the time to say -no- when they asked you to do something for her.
Big hug and lots of love to you, Truus from Holland
How... rude! I'd say either take it back to Carole's house and tell her you'll let her know when (IF?) you are ready to tackle it. Or to the dry cleaner as unknown suggested. Consider it helping them learn to help themselves.
Better yet - return it to Carole with some of your soap! She can sit in her wheelchair and work on it every bit as well as you can with your hip and leg woes.
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